Tag Archives: Power of Attorney

Can trustee allow her adult children to live in father’s house rent free?

Q: My father’s second wife passed away in March 2016, at which time my sister immediately had her children, ages 20 and 22 move into one of his houses under the stipulation they were to check on my father every day and pay the cable bill. They have done neither. My father pays their bills unknowingly, and my sister, as trustee, won’t give my father a copy of his will and trust so he can see what he signed. With the exception of my brother and I, the rest of the family constantly lie to my father about issues concerning his health, driving, and legal issues. Due to his early stage dementia, this causes more confusion for him. My sister (trustee) has stated a couple of times that she wished our dad would die. Doesn’t that constitute elder abuse? (Glenshaw, PA)

A: With early stages of dementia, your father can still be competent. If so, it is up to him to allow the grandchildren to live in his house and allow your sister to be an influence. If he made her trustee of his trust (if that is what you mean) he must trust her to some extent. However, as Trustee of his trust, she has an obligation and duty imposed to preserve trust property. Allowing her children to live in your father’s house for free does not sound she is acting in a fiduciary capacity. If you feel he is being taken advantage of, have a talk with him. He can always make you and/or your brother Agent under a POA if he is still competent. If he should digress to the point of being incompetent, you and/or your brother can file to be his guardian in court. If the sister also wants to be his Guardian, you may have a contested guardian hearing. In addition, if you believe she is mismanaging the trust, your lawyer can file for an accounting of that trust with the court. You will need the advice of a lawyer to handle these procedures.

How do I hold POA uncle accountable for my mom’s money?

Q: My mom had a will and trust. My uncle had power of attorney over her and he went on a power trip. I know he had some bank accounts in his and her names on that were considered part of my mom’s estate and is he accountable for the bank accounts. If so, how do I go about getting him to be accountable and showing receipts for his withdrawals of the bank accounts during his time of power of attorney. During that time, he filed a restraining order against me, my mother’s only child. (Pittsburgh, PA)

A: You can ask him for an accounting of all bank statements and receipts, but it sounds like that is not going to happen. The correct legal procedure needed to hold an Agent on a Power of Attorney accountable is to file a petition in probate court asking for an accounting of all expenditures and deposits. I would not try this on my own if I were you. You should consult with an attorney.

Can I sign her will if I am Power of Attorney?

Q: I have been taking care of my mother for the past 5 years! She has become sick and has given me a power of attorney! Could I have a living Will prepared if I have a power of attorney! (Pittsburgh, PA)

A:  Are you are asking whether you, as Agent under a POA, can sign a living will for your mother? The answer is unfortunately no. She needs to sign her own living will, will and power of attorney. She can do so only if she is competent. Ask her doctor if she is competent to sign these documents. You can also ask a lawyer to visit her and assess her for competency

Husband’s father has cancer, can his sister write checks?

Q: My husband’s sister is staying with her father. Who is sick. My husband is the father’s Power of Attorney, but the sister has been signing the father’s checks and giving them to her other sister, who up until this week hasn’t been part of her father’s life for several years. Supposedly they have been taking his mail and banking information out of the house as well. The do not possess power of attorney, and the sister staying with her father is on SSI Disability, and has taken the father’s bank cards and been using them for purchasing many items for herself and her boyfriend without the father’s permission. (Pittsburgh, PA)

A: She has no authorization to sign checks on his behalf. She should not give his money to anyone else unless he is authorizing her to. The way you describe it, it sounds like she is taking advantage of him. As his Agent under a POA it should be in your husband’s authority to safeguard him in a variety of ways, assuming he is not competent and is not opposing your help. If so, you can close his bank accounts, have the bank restrict them, redirect his mail, change his locks and keep them out of his house. These are complicated situations and you may want to consult with a local attorney. If his competency is in question and he refuses your help, your husband may want to consult with an attorney about becoming his Guardian.

Can I prevent my siblings from selling the family home?

Q: By way of my parents will I have 1/4 ownership of this home that I reside in. My mother has passed away and my father is in assisted care because of dementia my siblings are trying to sell this house worried about future Medical need for my dad who is 91 years old. I want to purchase this home but they’re not giving me enough time to get my credit in order. How can I prevent this transaction from happening or what can I do at this point? This has been my family home for 60 years I do not want to sell. I want to keep it and keep it in the family for my child and my grandchildren. (Pleasant Hills, PA)

A: I assume you mean your parent’s will and not their “living will”? Your 1/4 ownership does not kick in until your father dies. I will assume your father took full title when your mother passed. If the siblings are acting under a valid POA, and these medical needs are legitimate, they can sell the house. In that case, you need to get moving on finding a lender. If there is no POA in place and your father is incompetent, they would need to file for one of them to be his guardian in order to have legal authority to sell this home. This would give you more time. In any event, get moving and find a lender.

How can I have my 93-year-old mother declared incompetent?

Q: My sister and I have had joint POA since 2013, but not immediate. We have never exercised any POA. I have been taking care of her, although she is in an “independent living” place. I do her finances, her shopping…she should not be alone any more, as her health and mental condition are both deteriorating. She cannot live with me. My sister and her husband are willing to have her move in with them in another state, until a nursing home or hospice is the only option. She does not want to go, but at this point it cannot be her choice anymore. Ten years of my life are gone. (West Mifflin, PA)

A: This is a difficult situation. If your mother is deemed to be incompetent to manage her own affairs, you can file to be appointed her guardian. Until then, she can make her own decisions. You really need to sit down with a lawyer who handles guardian work and share all the facts.

How can I get power of attorney revoked?

Q: My mother has her boyfriend as her power of attorney. She has become ill but can very much speak on her own behalf and make her own decisions. The boyfriend is not allowing her to have a choice in any decision from what clothes she needs to wear to which credit card to use for a purchase to what she feels like eating for breakfast. He speaks to her as if she is a child and threatens to take things away if she doesn’t do what she’s told. I need to know what steps come first in this case for me to follow. (Pleasant Hills, PA)

A: More information is needed for me to understand the entire picture, but I can give you some general advice. A Power of Attorney can be revoked in writing by the Principal. If your mother is competent, she can sign a written revocation of the POA and have the revocation delivered to any financial institution, hospital or entity in which the POA may be on file or who may have relied on it. It needs to be your mother’s wish to revoke the POA. If she is conflicted because of her relationship with this man, you may want to investigate other measures, such as a guardianship. If that is the case, I suggest that you take her to an attorney and if she resists, consult with one yourself.

Can I create a living trust or will with my mother’s POA?

Q: My wife and I have been resident caregivers for the last six years of my aging Mother of 90 years of age. She assigned me as her Durable POA approximately seven years back. She is now mentally incapable of making decisions and is approaching hospice care. I would like to designate who and where her final assets (Home and less than $150T cash) would go upon her death. There are siblings involved. She has stated to us in the past how she wanted her remaining assets to be divided. Is her POA within my scope of authority? (Mt. Lebanon, PA)

A: I suggest a consultation with a lawyer. Generally, a Power of Attorney does not allow an Agent to create a trust or a will for the Principal. However, if the Power of Attorney you reference contains the appropriate powers, you may be able to set up trust or similar accounts which will achieve the result you are looking for. I would take the POA to an estate and trust lawyer for review.

Can I get a POA over mom without her knowledge?

Q: My 89-year-old mother has been diagnosed with severe delusions and after a psychological and medical evaluation, a letter was written stating that she is suffering from delusions and is not capable of handling her financial affairs. With an attorney in my presence, my mother stated that she would never let anyone take over her financial affairs and stated that she would not live. My mother believes she is a CEO of a company, married to someone that does not exist. Her only source of income is social security around $960 per month and most of it is used to set up business phones. Banks accounts were set up as business accounts even though the name she sets it up is different than her ID. There is other devastating and crazy actions that consumes all her SSI. Her current doctor will write another letter regarding her delusions and she is currently taking medication for delusions. Is it possible for me and my sister to get a Power of Attorney without our mother having knowledge of it because it would harm her and could make her have a stroke or serious medical issue? We heard from other families with the same situation that they have done it. Is so who can do it and what is the average cost and time frame? (Pittsburgh, PA)

A: No, you cannot get a Power of Attorney over someone without their knowledge. The person must be competent, understand what they are doing and sign the document. Your mother sounds like she may not be competent to sign such a document. If that is the case, your only option would be to file in court to be her guardian. Your mother certainly would have to know about this proceeding as she would be summoned to court unless excused for health reasons. You should consult with a CA lawyer in person.

Can I be POA for parents if I have past IRS issues?

Q: My dad is 90 and my mom is 87. They are no longer capable of h handling their own affairs. I have been asked to take over as power of attorney by their friends. My only problem is, I have federal tax issues dating back ten years. Is there a risk that the IRS could get my parents life savings if I become their power of attorney? (Pittsburgh, PA)

A: The short answer is no. Generally, when acting as an Agent for the Principal under the legal parameters of a Power of Attorney, the Agent is acting in a fiduciary position and is not personally liable. The Agent should have not personal liability for the debts and expenses of the Principal. The Principal’s assets should not be subject to claims of the Agent’s creditors. It is only when the Agent acts outside the scope of his authority of the POA or acts illegally, can the Agent be subject to personal liability.